6 Reasons I Don’t Want To Get Married Right Now



6 Reasons I Don’t Want To Get Married Right Now
By MindofaShe

 

I hope my mom doesn’t see this…Here in Nigeria there is this pressure to have a ring on your finger or maybe it’s just to pack out of your parent’s place and to your husband’s, I don’t know which. While been in love and settling down is great, maybe I really don’t want it right now. I have a million reason why but let’s not get to know each other too much. :)

1. I want rose and jack or jun gyu pio type of love situation
This is Nigeria and I constantly hear of cheating husbands and loyal wives that still choose to stay…. Errr no, I don’t want that. I want to be the only one he sees, the one and only but it is looking like I am deceiving myself with that standard. Well, enough said I aint in a rush to be that loyal wife plus I cannot come and kill myself.

2.  I can barely take care of myself.
So after marriage, the next thing is kids…. From what I have seen from my married friends, they can be exhausting and I don’t have that power. Call me selfish but most days I find it difficult to get out of bed and feed myself properly ergo the reason I haven’t been able to maintain a stable weight. Please how do I not end up staving my kids?

3. Relationships are hardwork and I am just a lazy human.
Dating on its on is a lot of shouting and fronting but the safe thing about dating is that you can opt out when you get sore throat from shouting but marriage …. I intend to be married forever but I am not ready for the extra work just yet, I am not into the baggage that comes with forever for now… I am too skinny for that.

4. My married friends have made me set a high standard for marriage
With the way marriage has been for most people I know, from friends, family to co-workers I have come to decide on things I definitely don’t want when I eventually settle down.  I refuse to settle for anything less than I want.

5. I already have a husband. His name is Electric Machine. Mrs MindofaShe Machine J
I just learnt how to sow (@khadlanawearso) and that is the only down and tied I want to be :). I have room for a boyfriend but a husband??????????.... Nah…..

6. I am trying to find a space for myself and my business in the world
This one is self-explanatory…. As a woman you are expected to cater to your husband and kids, cook for them, clean after them … it is what is and I want to actually do that... eventually, but I can’t afford to do that just now.

Marriage is sweet at the right time and with the right person but even for me in my late twenties…..NOT NOW


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