HAPPY: on a shedule or not?


 

Happy Pill?

In secondary school we all said life would be so much better when we get into the university. Life was probably at the highest peak for some of us (was it for me?), while for the rest of us it was a ‘please be over’ kind of thing. We most times convince ourselves that life will be better after we get that Bachelor Degree. Then we get pissed off at the government when our degree doesn’t fetch us that million naira job or that corner office.

We convince ourselves that life would be so much better after marriage but we forget that marriage comes with its own set of problems. It comes with nagging, roaming eyes, mistrust, sexual problems and lets not forget in-laws (yep!).

We say it would definitely get better once a mini us is running around the house (kaffy really?!),then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t growing as fast as you would want them to, we start to calculate how much we could have spent on buying that nice dress in the boutique or ordering from #Jumia instead of using it to buy diapers or books they hate on sight, we forget that they have to pass the teenagers phase and that is a whole a lot of other problem to deal with ; you know it. We then tell ourselves that ‘thank God they would soon get get married’ then we will certainly be happy. Are we really happy or should I say did we overestimate our happy’.

We tell ourselves that our life will be so great when our partner buckles up , gets a steady job, makes trillions, have a nice ride( more than one of course) and maybe even own a yatch to take us around the world..lol

The fact is that we would never be happy if we keep putting happy on a schedule. Truth be told we would always have problems, it is best to keep your feet on the ground and slap yourself with a tough loaf of reality and just be happy just because…

 Alfred D Souza said, "For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin -real life.
But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin.
At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life."
(I feel serious).

So stop waiting for that 1st class degree, that big house, that handsome and rich husband (you should probably wait for this one), those lovely but troublesome mini us, that mwaahh job and so on to be crazy happy. I am starting to learn happiness is a journey, not a destination (Amen to that).
 
So, Work like you don't need money.
Love like you've never been hurt (this one can be difficult) and
Dance Like everyone is watching but you don’t give a damn cos you are that happy :)



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