INTROVERT, EXTROVERT OR BOTH ?

 Hi my name is Toke and I am a certified introvert!                                 Response: Hi Toke.

You are wondering why the sudden declaration; it is not like I am Uncle Jonathan declaring for Presidency. Anyways, someone said I am a pretender and I literarily opened my mouth to defend myself but then I closed it because just like the word NO which is a complete sentence I didn’t need to explain anything to the boat jumper. After his far off base assessment I started to question myself a bit but then I smacked myself back to my reality; Toke doesn’t put up font for people, I am just too lazy for that …

****I think some of us have outgoing personalities but underneath all the ‘Hi and Heys’, we just want to crawl back into our cosy shell with our loud #Samsung earpiece playing all of #Jhene Aiko’s tracks and just avoid all human contact. I understand why people are confused about who we are because we also struggle with the 360 change at times: it is crazy, annoying and exhausting explaining how YOU are to everyone. So I am going to do what I do best, Vent! J.

This is our unwinnable war:

When we say ‘I am not a people’s person’ that doesn’t mean we are anti-social. It just means we are selective when it comes to been sociable

When we say ‘I am not going for my convocation service, end of the year gathering or valedictory services’, don’t look at us like weirdos. We just don’t see the whole point. We are not interested.

When we go all out of our way to avoid somebody but then we meet them down the hall, we act like we have been dying to talk to them all day. On the other hand we are sometimes accused of been flirty because we smile at everyone  but the thing is that, that assumption is far off base cause we really can just do with about half hand full of those people. It is not called pretending, it is just been able to push stuff behind and go with the flow.

When we decline to travel with you even though we are headed towards the same area via the same route. It is not like you aren't cool enough. We just prefer to meet up there to give us some ‘ME’ time with Jhene Aiko (I am that obsessed).

We are sometimes in between  wanting to be acknowledged for our hard work, wanting all the attention (probably a Leo and sanguine  thing on my part) and  panicking over the thought of somebody paying ‘more than necessary’  attention to us (please the floor should just open up already).

People always think we are suited for important duties like been the leader of the group, talking to the CEO, been the treasurer, preparing the presentation etc. . . . But guess what! We are practically throwing up and swallowing at the thought of it.

 Making friends is weird, because we are smiling and laughing and talkative when we are gisting at work ,an event or anywhere, and then we don’t want to answer your texts or calls for  days, because we  just want to be left alone… don’t take it personal.

We like people to see us as a puzzle they would like to put together and figure out, just know we do this unintentionally, it is not like there is a lot of mystery (sure?) we just don’t feel the need to show you what is in our mind’s diary through BBM.

Take note! , we don’t do ‘ group of friends’. Don’t take it personal when you aren’t in our inner circle. We just do one or two special friend(s) all through our life. We can’t deal with a lot at once.

We hate parties or social gatherings but when we decide to attend we are close to  being the life of that gathering/party, we are throwing down shots, rubbing up on that crush, smoking hookah, doing the latest dance steps etc…then we go into seclusion for days, probably waiting for the full moon again (I need to get down with teen wolf again).

We prefer eateries as our go to spots because we are surrounded by people but we are alone (and  Trace is on of course)

We have days we are just tweeting, re-tweeting, quoting, updating our status, changing our DP and replying to your chats all in a heartbeat and some days where we are off from BBM, Tweeter, Facebook and Whats-app for a month. It just happens.

The thing is that if you could just open your eyes a little wider, you would know we are introverts at heart and this is unintentionally/ unconsciously us………………………..

All this is us, and yes we could appear extroverted most times , that is not automatic even though you might remember us like that from the last time.  We being extrovert is largely dependent on what the environment is like. It is very important is that we don’t get judged based on that.

Hi my name is Toke  and I am an introverted extrovert                                                Response: Hi Toke