Today I went to the mall with a couple of girlfriends and while we were having fun and eating our hearts out we had to eventually cross paths with a couple of girls that were ‘typical girls’. Long story short there were some cold stares between my girls and the girls on the other table. When we got home I had to ask what happened and one of my friends said one of the girls thought I was after some boy they came with because he got me a chair to sit on. Another issue was that they were staring at our table, gossiping and laughing (more like mocking). And I asked to what end? why do we believe the worst in each other? why do we feel the need to compete with each other? (especially for the attention of men) why do we look down on those that are not us? Why do we highlight the worst in each other? I have always pondered these questions Why don’t women support each other?’...kilode!!! ||Support....image gotten from the web I follow Toke Makinwa on social media an...

O h darling, we know the truth If it were just me and you, this would be the right thing to do The mood is all misty and you think it is just me and you You clearly don’t want to see him O h darling, we know the truth I am not looking for a change of name Just a change of pace We are here together We both want the same thing for different reasons Same road, different destination This drive is moving too slow, Let’s get lost in the thrill O h darling, we know the truth We have both cum to an end This moment has caused a reaction The consequences is detachment You blissfully gave in to me I took you to nirvana, you took me to nirvana You are still in nirvana I am back home with him My nirvana O h darling, but you knew the truth

She said “Darling, please make enough money for us to leave on” “Why” he asked “I just want to change the world” She replied Have you ever felt like you understand everyone but no one ever truly understands you but most people claim they do …… but they usually don’t ! Crazy is the fact that sometimes you don’t understand yourself too even when you do…. Does that make sense? …. No?.... Yes?.......errrr…… We are that complicated I live mostly in my head because I don’t pay rent, most days I feel i haven’t done anything in life and I am not able to live in the moment, only for me to check my best friends post on instagram saying she is proud of me… of what ?? In my opinion, I have a good sense of who I am, what I am about and what matters to me. This post is for us ‘INFJians’ looking to connect. Hopefully we all find comfort in the fact that we are not alone even when we are alone in our heads. These are 15 Things only an INFJ (The Lazy Perfectionist) un...

Image:google,com “I love you” i said “Okay, I will talk to you later” he mumbled Going through the motions because how can you fix something that is not necessarily broken  It started out like every other overplayed sad romantic story. it started like a fairy tale. Girl sees boy, boy talks to her and she gets flipping butterflies. Boy sees girl, girl smiles at him and he pats down his chest and says ‘she is the one’….. But reality sets in, life and love is not like Meredith Grey and Derek Shepherd love story or maybe it just is. Well …. They tell you compromise is the name of the winning ingredient in relationships, they say if you love someone you have to learn to compromise; you have to learn to be vulnerable.  What happens when he makes you too soft and mushy and it turns out that is not his type? What happens when you finally learn to love and be in love?  What happens when you finally learn how to let someone take care o...