Why don't women support each other ? 7 ways you can be support your fellow woman-being

Today I went to the mall with a couple of girlfriends and while we were having fun and eating our hearts out we had to eventually cross paths with a couple of girls that were ‘typical girls’. Long story short there were some cold stares between my girls and the girls on the other table. When we got home I had to ask what happened and one of my friends said one of the girls thought I was after some boy they came with because he got me a chair to sit on. Another issue was that they were staring at our table, gossiping and laughing (more like mocking). And I asked to what end?

why do we believe the worst in each other?
why do we feel the need to compete with each other? (especially for the attention of men)
why do we look down on those that are not us?
Why do we highlight the worst in each other?
I have always pondered these questions
Why don’t women support each other?’...kilode!!!

||Support....image gotten from the web


I follow Toke Makinwa on social media and although I don’t think she is a saint (nobody is), I believe she is EXTREMELY hard working but go to her comment section and you will marvel at the number of negative comments coming from women. This is not just limited to her, you can't blink these days without some reference whether in entertainment or otherwise teaching women to tear each other down. It's depressing, to say the least.
There is a million other people from the other gender trying to break us, trying to oppress us without doing the same to ourselves.isnt there a saying that ‘a bunch of broom sticks bound together is more effective and hard(er) to break?

We should be looking up to the likes of Oprah, Tracie Ellis Ross, Gabrielle Union, Gbemi Olateru, Maria Okan, Zainab Balogun , Bolanle Olakannmi, Kemi Adetiba (Media girls) and the likes from other walks of life…,We need to know that we can build an inclusive community of strong and secured women. We need to be each other’s trampoline; I mean that in a healthy way.

In my opinion, these are some of the ways you can do that;
  • 1.       Own your ‘jealous’ and be motivated to level up
  • 2.       Give her complements; don’t deny/ignore her accomplishments
  • 3.       Cut each other some slacks
  • 4.       Hype each other and your  accomplishments
  • 5.       Share each other’s story and struggles
  • 6.       Become a motivator and a mentor to the coming generation
  • 7.       Speak about it and educate people about your stand against women competing and rivaling against each other.    
We need to preach against women rivalry, we need to encourage collaboration amongst us, we need to encourage the act of giving compliments.
What have been your experiences and thoughts in this regard to the topic.

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Thank you
xoxo...MaShe:) 

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