Cheaters, Good girls and Karma....

Karma; A good girl's bestie.

The question ‘why men cheat’ has become boring because they say it is inbred, it is already in their genetic arrangement; very lame answer by the way. Cheating in the general sense is not the issue today (breath easy.. lool). I understand a man cheating on a not so good woman but what about the good ones, the ones that are a dime, the ride or die chick, why cheat on them ?

Firstly I would never really understand the male species, at least when it comes to their libido.  A woman can be perfect with capital letter P , Beyoncé look alike , Alakija mind set, cooks like crazy  , very open minded in bed (she even does the Chinese handcuff style just for him ), faithful and yet, he would still do a full 360 and cheat on her with someone totally opposite of her every time. Why?
I have an answer to that; it is just plain stupidity and sheer immaturity. A man cheating on a good girl is not a reflection on anything the girl is doing or not doing, a man that cheats is from my perspective, small minded and mentally weak and he does it because he realizes one day the girl might actually smarten up and realize she deserves better than his lame ass, so what he does is to stroke his ego by cheating.

Many guys has much has I have gathered have self esteem issues, how can you tell? Listen to a man and then listen to the boy beside you talk, all you would hear from his mouth is ‘ I wan bang that girl wey  dey down that street’. They drown there own insecurities in things like that, convincing himself that he is’ ‘all that’…right!

This kind of guys  consciously or subconsciously know that by them cheating on a good girl, they sort of have that power over her ; why this happens I would never understand , but it does I swear. I have noticed that if you cheat on a loyal woman she would still care about you, she would be hurt but she would still care as much. At first I can tell you that she would be gripped with shock that you could even cheat on her much less with someone that wouldn’t be able to match up to her standards when it comes to all that she has been giving you .She would start to question herself ; what did I do wrong? I am still pretty, aren’t I? Are my boobs not enough anymore? Did I get rid of all those love handles? Am I too clingy? Do his friends hate me? Is 4 times on the mat not enough? Are my positions not satisfying enough? Or am I lazy? What am I doing wrong?

The craziest part is after this we would stay; we would even start to fight for his love. Baba reverse psychology! We would want to prove that we are better than the girl he cheated with. This they say is how small minded men gain control over loyal women. We would like to think a woman who knows her worth would say NO  to this. But we have to consider the different shades of grey, everything isn’t in just black and white. That been said, at what point exactly do we draw the line between being  patient and being stupid? This to me are blurry lines in a relationship.

I am not here to decide or offer anyone advice on that question and I don’t think the answer to that question should be answered by anybody except you, because  it is different for everyone. I am just going to say we ladies shouldn’t   because of the myth “a cheater, always a cheater” decide to call it quits,  I see a lot of girls doing so cause that is what the world expects from them . I have met my share of guys that can not do without a side piece but at the same time I have met people that got over the habit and turned out to be great partners but on the other hand too, I am a sappy ‘last chance’ kind of girl and I hate broken relationships but apparently this cheaters need to be taught the hard way. When Drake said better late than never, don’t forget he also said never late is better. You can’t expect to go around with you zippers down all the time and still come back to meet the ever loving girlfriend arms wide open , eventually she would have had enough of your bullshit and you would be left out in the cold

This guys at first might be happy for their recent freedom but as time goes on, they come to realize, cheating on a good girl is like failing an open test (you just gulked yourself),  a good girl is never to be taken for granted.

 The good thing about Karma is that, it is like a rubber band , you can only stretch it so far before it comes back to smack you  in the face, a cheater eventually gets a slimy, slutty, havoc wrecking  beach for a wife.

Shout-outs to every girl that have and is going through and through their types, you are strong and I understand the dilemma when it comes to the heart.