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'I am Stuck'; the lie we tell ourselves.

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Happy New Month everyone. It's my month so I am super excited (it is not like I am expecting cash) but at the same time I am sort of depressed. It just dawned on me that June is over and very soon the year would be over. Thinking about it sef!...At the beginning of the year I can remember I had resolutions(we all have them) ,I was like 'Omo! this year would be different ' and I actually believed it. But guess what?!,every thing is still the same, I still haven't done anything concerning my passion, I am still very skinny(starting to accept that), I still need a lot of money e.t.c. Sooner than I think, 2015 would just show up( Time flies,Literally!) . And the crazy part is that sometimes I really don't know what to do. I am Stuck! A friend asked me not too long ago 'What are you doing to attain your set goals (pursuing my dream job)?' and I gave him my favourite reply,i said there is really nothing to do /i don't know what to do A.k.a 'I am stuc...

Abortion: The Lost Cradle.

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While growing up we were not really taught much about sex but we were constantly made to understand that ladies that had abortions were Bad! Bad!!.if I heard about this ladies I probably would have spat on them if they weren't older than me (that was how much they disgusted me) . This perspective followed me into my teenage years but not beyond. We are now in a regime(sounds serious) where everyone eyes is 'opened', where sex is the order of the day, if you tell a 16yr old girl to avoid sex there is a 20/80 percent chance she wouldn't listen ( I hope my younger ones listen ). Sex brings babies and like I said they have been falling from the sky fast, we aren't ready for babies, our baby daddies are ready yet, so what's the next option that pops to our mind?.....ABORTION! The formal definition for abortion is the act of inducing the cessation (ceasing/discontinuace) of pregnancy, we all know what it means but I feel like when ever it is being talked about we l...

Roles Reversed?: Ladies in pants,Men in skirts

I have been away for a while now (act like you noticed),lets just say there have been no activity down here. Anyway, things are looking up..i got my close friend back so I am blooming (lool). I hit blank for awhile but I have the best of friends ever so... Recently all I see around me are lazy guys(don't hang me yet),don't know if I am looking in the wrong places or maybe I am seeing more of ambitious ladies( shit has to be intimidating for them at times too). Now I can't say I am in the right position to talk about the 'roles' of the man in a household (I am not my mom) but from the preconceived notion,what we understand is that a woman takes care of the home and a man is responsible for her comfort(okay!,so my key point is 'financial ',sue me!). Now I am not saying it is necessarily a stag rule when it comes to dating, I am not saying that we haven't evolved yet but that notion is still the foundation (I am right). But a line in a Drake's trac...

Why me?, Why you??,Why us???

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I was going to write about laziness (that defines me right now) but i changed my mind. One of my friend is going through something that i know one way or the  other we all have been through it (it is unique for everyone). Sometimes, some things happen that makes us question our faith. I am a ‘have faith’ kind of girl, i believe that anything that is suppose to happen would happen if God says ‘go ahead’. Why? Because i have seen people face hardship or difficult times and they have come out stronger, i have seen people scale mountains and realised it was their faith in the Lord that helped them scale through. Like I have read some where “The lord doesn’t burden us with more than we can handle” He knows we are capable of getting through any hardship he throws at us; the point now is we have to trust that he is right beside us and he knows what he is doing. I always tell my friend Kaffy a story i heard from an Imam when I was little : There was struggling mother(she was constan...

Baby?, are we ready yet?!

So I was with my girlfriend and her new baby a while ago (she is so darn happy and tired), I am starting to think of having a baby just for 'happy' sake,lool. Lately it seems like everyone is giving birth,it is like , they are suddenly falling from the sky. There is Eduntey,Mary,Motun,Kofo and many more (it's crazy) they are so frequent that I think God have an already made batch(hehehehe). I always wonder who the next person would be*thinky "Wande you be next O!'' is always the response of my mumu padi when ever we talk baby. it is like our time has come to start pro creating or is almost here. I am a lady so I am suppose to be ready but I am terrified of having a baby,the pains(chica is still gisting us), the stress(u wouldn't be able to sleep 6hours straight) plus they can be pretty annoying when they are grown. They say "Like poems, kids never make any sense and you have to pretend to understand them. But unlike poems they keep crapping themselve...

Friends Catalog

1) The Sister This is the friend you grew up with. You guys probably went to the same primary school, kept malice with the same people(i remember that all too well),talked about your escapades in the toilet with the boy that you like(did that too!). You have been together for so long,your mom knows her and her family. You are even able to tell her 'the soup your mom cooked is not sweet today’, she respects a.k.a fears your dad, loves your mom ,adores you kid sister, teases your elder brother. She helps you sell at your shop without complaining. This are the type of friends that even if you don't see each other in a while it doesn't matter because when you do, it is like u guys haven’t been apart 2) The Divergent (I love that movie) Friends that are so different from you, they are somewhat opposite of who you are. These can be in reference to their religion, their interests, culture, their perspectives etc, this friend is one of the most valuable friends in your life, t...

Friends Catalog

1) The Sister This is the friend you grew up with. You guys probably went to the same primary school, kept malice with the same people(i remember that all too well),talked about your escapades in the toilet with the boy that you like(did that too!). You have been together for so long,your mom knows her and her family. You are even able to tell her 'the soup your mom cooked is not sweet today’, she respects a.k.a fears your dad, loves your mom ,adores you kid sister, teases your elder brother. She helps you sell at your shop without complaining. This are the type of friends that even if you don't see each other in a while it doesn't matter because when you do, it is like u guys haven’t been apart 2) The Divergent (I love that movie) Friends that are so different from you, they are somewhat opposite of who you are. These can be in reference to their religion, their interests, culture, their perspectives etc, this friend is one of the most valuable friends in your life, t...