RELATIONSHIPS IN OUR 20s*rolls eyes*

Dating at my age is kind of weird or I should probably say awkward(you don’t think so?)..Ok let me explain, at this age you have just started to find yourself, you have just started navigating your life the exact way you want it, throwing in someone else’s emotion into the circle can be pretty tiring et tricky especially when you still cant deal with all of yours. That been said, there are plenty good side to dating at this stage ,this is the stage you would actually find out that Love has no definition, it s just a sweet high feeling(i should know…yimu).even through the joy, upsets and heartbreaks you get to establish the type of love you want…that I can tell you surpasses all of the awkward.
Wearing the brand he wants: I am not talking about clothes here, I am talking about how he perceives u.you see at this stage how you see you andhow he sees you are two different things and I have noticed in virtually all relationships that you start to be what he thinks about you( it’s not like you are a mumu oo! But when you have been together for so long it happens),you would only see yourself through his eyes.this can be bad cos like I said you are still finding yourself…beware of this and know that it is important know you and grow how you want to grow and not how he wants you to grow. Like Drizzy Drake said in one track like that(cant remember the name, so much for been a die hard fan*shame*) ‘You have to know yourself to own yourself’.
Those standards are important: know them & set them: I would like to believe that at this stage we have started to set standards that goes beyond tall,dark,handsome and rich ..err Richie is important(I mean Richard oo)..well this standards shouldn’t be a joke to him. If he sees  them as a joke I really don’t think he values you that much..well guess what ?!, you are still in you twenties, find someone that would atleast not laugh at your standards…
Potential and actual reality:  the good part about being with someone from the get-go is that you don’t know that your notions about them is way off base(yeahh….), you would have yourself believe that everything is so full of possibility and chance, you would always think ‘O! Things are going to change fr the better soon. and when you actually start seeing them for who they are ,you cant do anything!. It is at this stage you start replacing potential with actual reality. Lesigh!
It is not the way we imagined it: well to me, dating isn’t that casual anymore, everygirl now wants it for the long-run.well love comes in different forms for different people and fighting the form in which you find it is pretty useless. Love should be appreciated how ever way it shows up.you shouldn’t compare the way you found love to the way ednutey found love or the way Nike found hers. You relationship might work better with him leaning on you or vice versa. It might work better with you guys as the best of friends,it is okay. Even Rihanna  said ‘we found love in the oddest place’ , fighting the form is useless and sort of wasful of the uniqueness(oyibo pooo!).
Well that is just how I see it faa!